If a five pound gift voucher too cheap for a wedding gift?

A girl in my circle of friends is getting married. We went to the same school and have mutual friends who are close to each other but I do not think I have ever even spoken to her on the phone, one to one.





Anyway, she is having a kitchen tea/bridal shower thing before her wedding (which will be abroad). I am going to travel down to london from liverpool for the weekend and I will see a couple of friends as well as go to her party but I have made the effort specifically to come to bulk up the numbers.





she is a very sucessful doctor, I am a struggling single mum. She has a gift list and like the cheapest thing is ten pounds apart from five pound gift vouchers. I could not go empty handed but even the travel to london is expensive for me.





what should I do, I do not think I have time to make something and it will be a hectic rush from work, then dropping my kid off then catching the train so I would not manage carrying around a bulky homemade gift.





Suggestions please.If a five pound gift voucher too cheap for a wedding gift?
I got married last month and got a 拢5 voucher from someone who is on benefits. It wasn't a problem to me.





Edit..Expecting a lot more from everyone is greedy. We don't all have 拢50 to blow at one time on a present for someone. We give what we can afford.If a five pound gift voucher too cheap for a wedding gift?
Wedding lists are also for guidance, there is nothing to stop you buying something that you know the couple will like that isn't on the list.





This way, even though you only have a few pounds to spare they won't know the picture frame you bought them from Asda (for one of their wedding photos) wasn't hugely expensive.
Are you attending the wedding or the bridal shower?


If you are not going to the wedding, there is no need for a wedding gift.


If you are going to the shower, pick up some kitchen or tea towels for her. Or if it is easier to the gift voucher. A gift is always optional. It is not required. And if it causes you a hardship, then don't do it. A card wishing her well is all that is needed.
My friends are from all economic backgrounds and I honestly can't remember who gave us what or who didn't give us anything when we were married. What I DO remember were the people who went to great trouble to be with me for my hen bash and those who were with us at our wedding. She must be thrilled that you are making such an effort on her behalf, and she certainly won't expect a gift. Have a wonderful time!
Hi. I do think 拢5 is not enough to give as a wedding present. If you don't really know this woman and are going to find it expensive to travel down and to buy drinks etc is it not better for you just to say that you are very sorry but you have other arrangements?
If you really can't afford anything more than a 拢5 voucher then I would suggest going and buying something for 拢5 instead and wrapping it up. Even a bunch of flowers. Have a look on ebay as you may be able to pick up a vase or something similar for a fiver.
I have to say I find it a bit strange to have a gift list for this type of event as it would appear to be a replacement for a hen night when you don't normally give gifts.
Just bring a bottle of wine and a bottle aspirin and say ';Here, you'll be needing these';. If she an ounce of humour in her, she'll love it. It isn't your job to buy some rich casual acquaintance a super nice gift.
If she knows your situation then she should not expect anything. If 拢5 gift vouchers are on her wedding list then go ahead, if not don't bother.


Enjoy a well earned break!
Give her a card and a pretty little picture frame or a little bridal prayer book, depending on her religion. They are sweet gifts that don't cost a fortune.





Best wishes!!!!!!!!!
You would be better to give just a card than to give 5 quid. why not just avoid gou=ing to the party, therefore saving money so that yu can afford a decent present?
拢5 gift? It's actually not cheap. As long as you're a true good friend that all it matters. I value friendship than gift.
yes





a card would be better - if you can't afford a gift, then don't, 拢5 is a bit cheap and seems mean. x
Yes, very cheap. You'd be better off giving nothing.
yes it is too cheap
do you want to go?
i'll lend you a tenner, i'm frickin minted baby! Lol
I'd give a very inexpensive gift rather than a gift card for so little. You can afford what you can afford, but a gift you find on sale somewhere may seem a lot nicer even if it cost the same, plus there is effort involved. I'd look at what she registered for and either buy a cheaper version of something she wanted or take clues from what she registered for to guide you on what to buy. In keeping with the kitchen theme, I'd definitely go to a bookshop with a good clearance section and look for a nice cook book. There are always tons of them on clearance. Some of my best ones were the sheapest! You could also give her a bottle of wine or a basket you make up with different teas, honey and some home made cookies.
If she is a good friend she would understand about the money side of things.


When I got married I appreciated anything and everything we were given.


How about a nice photo frame? That way they can put wedding photos in it which would be great.


Have you thought about a cheap way to travel, Big yellow bus runs coaches and trains but at limited times so may not suit, and on normal rail if you book before hand you can often save money - apoligies if you have already done this!
For the average guest, 拢5 is a bit cheap, but you have extenuating (sp?) circumstances. If you can't afford much else, then they should be thankful. It's the thought that counts, not the gift itself. I am sure that if she knows you are a single mum with money problems, then she will appreciate that you don't have much to give.





If you really feel bad about it, then perhaps give her this, but in the card say you will buy her something bigger when you have a bit of spare cash saved up. I'm sure that if she's a real friend then she won't mind.





I know what it's like to live hand to mouth (I'm doing it as we speak), so I know that ANY amount is a lot of money to spare. But as long as you speak to her about it, or mention in the card, she should be fine. It would be rude and inconsiderate for her to give you a guilt trip after that.
rather than a gift certificate (which is obvous how much you spent), why not do something cute with it? maybe get a cute gift box and make ';wedding day survival kit'; and maybe put little things she may need in a pitch like saftey pins, hair pins, clear nail polish (smudged nails or run in stockings), maybe a make-up remover pad, gum or mints, and a little good luck charm. also include a little note explaining what it is and your best wishes for the wedding. Also, you would be able to get all these items (those you may not have) at the drug store at the train station.





Also, since it seems you will be friends with many there, is there anyone that you can get together with and buy something?





good luck!
Yes 5 pounds doesnt sound very nice, but you could either buy her something small for the house (even from Ikea),try a f;ea market and buy her a vase or something small and cheap.Alternatively go for the 10 pound gifts on the wedding list. You could also write her a nice card and exolain your situation.I am sure she will be ok with it,afterall wedding are not for the gifts (or at least that is what i think).It is all about celebrating the unification of two people and being with all your loved ones!A gift in the long run,isnt that important! Good Luck xx
Five pounds? That's a joke, right?